Posts Tagged: family issues


5
Sep 09

REVIEW: What Would Joey Do by Jack Gantos

what-would-joey-do-jack-gantosJoey Pigza is a “wired” young boy who suffers from attention-deficit-hyperactive-disorder (ADHD) but what’s interesting is that he’s actually the most normal person in his CRAZY family!

First, his parents are divorced but his erratic, reckless motorbike-riding father doesn’t seem to want to move on because he stalks his ex-wife and her new boyfriend frequently.

His mother is another crazy case – she’s so caught up with making it work out with her new boyfriend (another weirdo who is super calm and cool and snaps photographs of EVERYTHING), she doesn’t realize that Joey needs her attention.

Joey’s paternal grandmother is the best! She suffers from a chronic lung condition and is just about the nastiest, meanest, most foul-mouthed old lady you’d ever meet. And she smokes a pack of cigarettes a day and never fails to buy the lottery.

Ironically, this mean old lady is the one who loves Joey the most – she took care of him since he was a baby and ultimately knows him inside out. She also realizes that both of Joey’s parents are too caught up in their own selfish needs to be able to give him the attention, care and encouragement a special boy like him needs.

And she also knows that what Joey needs most is a friend and she tells Joey that she’ll only roll over and die when he finds one.

If you’ve ever been around children with ADHD, you’ll know that they NEVER sit still! Yup, they are so “wired” that they literally bounce off the walls. Joey’s ADHD is kept under control with medicinal patches and he’s even learned to snap on an extra one on days he’s especially S-T-R-E-S-S-E-D.

What’s sweet about Joey is that he grew up thinking he’s A PROBLEM that he goes around being Mr. Helpful – he goes to the supermarket to pick up and re-stack the fallen cans on every shelf for FREE! I thought the supermarket manager could have rewarded him with something in appreciation…

He also tries to be the best little boy for his mother who is always moaning and whining about her failed marriage and how she wants to make her new relationship work. The poor fella – imagine a child being an adult to an adult who acts like a child?

Finally, his mother takes him out of regular school (which he loves) and forces him into a homeschooling environment organized by an infinitely religious Christian neighbour with a blind daughter.

The homeschooling situation is the WORST of Joey’s problems because the blind girl is the total opposite of Joey – she’s extremely spoilt by her mother who feels guilty over her child’s blindness AND she is frustrated by her mother’s overprotectiveness and religiousness.

Because of this, she is DELIGHTED to prey on her ideal victim – the earnest and honest Joey :-) It’s amazing the types of trouble she could get him into!

The book title actually comes from the girl’s mother’s rug at the door entrance = “WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?”. Every morning when Joey arrives at her doorstep for ’school’, she would ask: “What would Joey do?” You’ll laugh when you read his responses to her strange question.

However, Joey soon learns that he can use this to his own advantage…

What happens to Joey? Can he stay sane and save himself from his CRAZY family? You’ll have to read “What Would Joey Do?” yourself to find out. I guarantee you this book will keep you peeled to its pages right from the start!

Rating: ★★★★★

# Publisher: HarperCollins
# ISBN-10: 0060544031
# ISBN-13: 978-0060544034


18
May 09

REVIEW: Mighty Queens of Freeville

mighty-queens-of-freeville I received this book for review last week and couldn’t wait to dig into what sounded like “Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood” and “Calendar Girls”.

A small town girl myself, I was interested to read about “the town that raised them” as Amy Dickinson goes through a divorce and raised her daughter on her own.

At the beginning, I didn’t like Amy because she was a housewife of the worst kind and seemed like the typical “victim” of a divorce:

  • She cooked, cleaned and threw her entire herself into the roles of “mother” and “wife”.
  • She didn’t follow her husband on any of his overseas trips and doesn’t say why…
  • She was an American in London and though she’s alone with her toddler at home, she doesn’t really go out to make friends or find a new life for herself.
  • She can feel her marriage falling apart yet she doesn’t hear her husband’s message at the marriage counselling session –
  • ‘how stale our marriage was’, ‘how trapped he felt’ and ‘he used the word “nag”.

    She also came across as self-centered because
    …she blamed her husband entirely for the end of their marriage (when he eventually moved to Russia with his girlfriend) and
    …her clinging on to her daughter Emily made it really difficult for the little girl to leave her for a trip to New York with her father.

    I’m glad she saw sense in what “Nasir” the taxi driver told her (which none of her close friends did) and changed her attitude towards the father-daughter visitations:

    “Well, even if you don’t like it, you must pretend that you do. It’s for the girl’s sake. If you don’t want her to go, then she’ll know it and she won’t want to go…”

    Amy starts a new life in Washington DC but visits her hometown Freeville frequently and had readable situations involding

  • the $58,000 house she bought from 2 college boys who’d renovated it – the slippery stairs due to ‘flesh-coloured nylon shag carpeting two inches thick’
  • her neighbour, Bill, whose shirtlessness announced the coming of spring and who dressed up as Jack Nicholson from The Shining for Halloween for fun, only to scare the daylights out of every kid,
  • her cat, Pumpkin (even though I HATE cats),
  • the yummylicious food the women of Freeville were good at whipping up!
  • the strange men she met when she starts dating again – I truly sympathized with Amy here :-)
  • I’m glad that Amy found herself again at the end and also trusted her daughter Emily to become her own woman.

    If anything, “The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter, and the Town That Raised Them” shows married women what NOT to do and divorced women the tough journey ahead AND a new life of possibilities.

    I have a friend who’s divorced with a kid – she’s a beautiful and intelligent woman, who like Amy, puts her kid first before dating men.

    I don’t think she’s found a man who can accept her on her own terms yet – I’d really love to give her this book and hope that she’ll find Amy’s story a hopeful, if not inspiring one.

    Mighty Queens of Freeville, The: A Mother, a Daughter, and the Town That Raised Them
    by Amy Dickinson
    Hardcover: 240 pages
    Publisher: Hyperion (February 3, 2009)
    ISBN-10: 1401322859
    ISBN-13: 978-1401322854


    16
    Mar 09

    REVIEW: Irreplaceable by Stephen Lovely

    irreplaceable-by-stephen-lovelyWhen I received the book last week, I fell in love immediately with the cover photo of a finger drawing out an incomplete heart on a frosty window…

    “A stunning debut novel of love and loss”, we follow the journey of Isabel’s heart
    …from the day she signs the organ donation card, informs her husband, Alex Voormann about her decision and gets his consent and signature,
    …to the day she dies from a car accident,
    …to the day the heart is transplanted into Janet Corcoran, a young mother of 2,
    …to the day Alex receives a card from Janet, the organ recipient.

    “Irreplaceable is a the story of what happens after the transplant –
    not only to Alex (husband to the organ donor) but within the concentric circles of family that spiral outward from him and from Janet (the organ recipient).”

    Janet breaks the rules of contacting donor families, disturbs Alex’s peace and reminds him of his pain and loss a year after Isabel dies.

    If that’s not bad enough, Isabel’s mother, Bernice, has actually replied to Janet’s mother’s email and encourages him to consider establishing contact with them.

    What’s worse, Alex is stalked by Jasper Klaas, the man who killed Isabel and is intent to seek his forgiveness and become his friend!

    In short, everybody just won’t leave Alex alone, although he’s still grieving from the loss of his beloved wife in a tragic car accident.

    Like most people, Alex is not interested in death especially the business of organ donations. He’s horror-stricken when his wife brings up the card during a dinner date and he quickly signs it, shoves it deep in his wallet to get it out of the way.

    However, the organ recipient’s gratefulness and interest to know more about Isabel and Jasper, the killer intent on forgiveness, force him out of his “I just want to get on with my life” attitude.

    As I think of my late father’s upcoming death anniversary, I can relate to how Alex feels – a person you love is simply “irreplaceable” and initially, he feels revulsion at the thought of talking or meeting Janet because she’s alive while his wife is dead.

    However, unlike my father who is gone, leaving behind only his photographs, memories and lessons on life, Isabel’s heart “lives” on in Janet and since she lives, her two children, 5-year-old Carly and 8-year-old Sam have a mother and Janet’s parents are spared the pain of losing a child, a loss Bernice feels for the rest of her days.

    Finally, Alex see the beautiful results of his wife’s organ donation pledge.

    In doing so, especially in the beautiful, emotional and touching moment in the ending, Alex comes to terms with his loss and finally finds the answer he didn’t know he was looking for.

    Thank you, Stephen Lovely, for writing this beautiful novel. Reading your book has also helped me in the healing process of saying good bye to and remembering my dear father.

    Add “Irreplaceable” by Stephen Lovely to your bookshelf or to your Kindle. I promise you, you’ll not regret it.

    Hardcover: 352 pages
    Publisher: Voice; 1 edition (February 3, 2009)
    Language: English
    ISBN-10: 1401322824
    ISBN-13: 978-1401322823


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