REVIEW: Mighty Queens of Freeville

by KittyCat on May 18, 2009

mighty-queens-of-freeville I received this book for review last week and couldn’t wait to dig into what sounded like “Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood” and “Calendar Girls”.

A small town girl myself, I was interested to read about “the town that raised them” as Amy Dickinson goes through a divorce and raised her daughter on her own.

At the beginning, I didn’t like Amy because she was a housewife of the worst kind and seemed like the typical “victim” of a divorce:

  • She cooked, cleaned and threw her entire herself into the roles of “mother” and “wife”.
  • She didn’t follow her husband on any of his overseas trips and doesn’t say why…
  • She was an American in London and though she’s alone with her toddler at home, she doesn’t really go out to make friends or find a new life for herself.
  • She can feel her marriage falling apart yet she doesn’t hear her husband’s message at the marriage counselling session –

    • ‘how stale our marriage was’, ‘how trapped he felt’ and ‘he used the word “nag”.

    She also came across as self-centered because
    …she blamed her husband entirely for the end of their marriage (when he eventually moved to Russia with his girlfriend) and
    …her clinging on to her daughter Emily made it really difficult for the little girl to leave her for a trip to New York with her father.

    I’m glad she saw sense in what “Nasir” the taxi driver told her (which none of her close friends did) and changed her attitude towards the father-daughter visitations:

    “Well, even if you don’t like it, you must pretend that you do. It’s for the girl’s sake. If you don’t want her to go, then she’ll know it and she won’t want to go…”

    Amy starts a new life in Washington DC but visits her hometown Freeville frequently and had readable situations involding

  • the $58,000 house she bought from 2 college boys who’d renovated it – the slippery stairs due to ‘flesh-coloured nylon shag carpeting two inches thick’
  • her neighbour, Bill, whose shirtlessness announced the coming of spring and who dressed up as Jack Nicholson from The Shining for Halloween for fun, only to scare the daylights out of every kid,
  • her cat, Pumpkin (even though I HATE cats),
  • the yummylicious food the women of Freeville were good at whipping up!
  • the strange men she met when she starts dating again – I truly sympathized with Amy here :-)

    • I’m glad that Amy found herself again at the end and also trusted her daughter Emily to become her own woman.

    If anything, “The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter, and the Town That Raised Them” shows married women what NOT to do and divorced women the tough journey ahead AND a new life of possibilities.

    I have a friend who’s divorced with a kid – she’s a beautiful and intelligent woman, who like Amy, puts her kid first before dating men.

    I don’t think she’s found a man who can accept her on her own terms yet – I’d really love to give her this book and hope that she’ll find Amy’s story a hopeful, if not inspiring one.

    Mighty Queens of Freeville, The: A Mother, a Daughter, and the Town That Raised Them
    by Amy Dickinson
    Hardcover: 240 pages
    Publisher: Hyperion (February 3, 2009)
    ISBN-10: 1401322859
    ISBN-13: 978-1401322854

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