September, 2008


21
Sep 08

REVIEW: Sam Feels Better Now by Jill Osborne

Sam Feels Better Now

“Sam Feels Better Now” is a book that introduces the first stage of trauma therapy for children ages 4-10. Written by a professional counsellor and chlid therapist, “Sam Feels Better Now” uses drawings, play and story telling to help a child express their feelings and difficulties right after a traumatic event.

To be used with a child therapist, this book begins with the story of Sam who “saw something awful and scary” and is now:

- having trouble sleeping,
- isn’t eating enough and
- is fighting with some of his friends.

“Miss Carol” the therapist then helps “Sam” to give voice to his feelings about the trauma by encouraging him to draw pictures, make lists and use colours.

Having counselled teenagers who come from troubled homes, I would have found “Sam Feels Better Now! An Interactive Story for Children” useful even in my discussions with these tensed, withdrawn teens. Because children tend to clam up after a traumatic event, drawing and colouring offer them a more comfortable and less threatening way to express their feelings.

Also, I find that the book’s ordered sections help “Sam” to acknowledge, approach and move forward with the trauma in 6 stages:

1. Get to know a therapist – “Sam Meets Ms. Carol
2. Share his feelings about the trauma with a helpful and trained person – “Why is Sam scared?”
3. Find comfort and build his self-esteem by identifying people and places he’d feel secure with – “Sam stays safe
4. Gain better awareness and understanding of his feelings esp in how various parts of his body may be feeling the pressure from the intense stress – “Sam Colors his feelings
5. “Talk” through the event in alternative mode e.g. using a sandbox, puppets or art – “Sam tells his story
6. Begin the healing process by sharing positive feelings about “feeling better” – “Sam says goodbye“.

If you know of any child who has experienced a traumatic event, you may want to buy / recommend / this book to the parents.

Buy now:

Or, you could invite them to preview the book here.


9
Sep 08

REVIEW: Flour Babies by Anne Fine

Flour babies

Written by the same author of “Madame Doubtfire” (Mrs. Doubtfire movie starring Robin Williams), the book begins with a noisy class of pre-teen boys in the UK on their usual day of traumatising their form teacher, Mr Cartright.

This day, the teacher is reviewing their project options for the Science Fair.

Naturally, the boys all want past projects like “the Soap Factory”, “the Maggot Farm” or “the Exploding Custard Tins”…

Mr. Cartright is quick to throw a wet blanket on their fun as his vivid recollection of the havoc wreaked the previous year. As he agonizes over the boys’ difficulty in choosing a project, the school’s famous troublemaker, Simon Martin, makes the choice unconsciously by barging into the class late, just after the teacher threatens that the ONE who makes noise will decide for all.

Poor Simon Martin had eavesdropped on his teacher’s conversation earlier in the morning and in his innocent boyish mind, he thought he had stumbled upon the teachers’ biggest SECRET to the ultimate boy’s fun – exploding sacks of flour!

These are the “flour babies”, the least attractive option on the list for the Science Fair – 6 lb bags of flour “babies” that must be cared for EVERYTIME, EVERYWHERE. However, Simon manages to persuade his entire class that THIS is THE best project of all LOL

Trusting the school’s most popular detention class student, the boys all go for it, taking these 5 rules in stride:

1. The flour babies must be kept clean at all times
2. Flour babies will be put on the official scales twice a week to check for any weight loss…or any weight gain.
3. No flour baby may be left unattended at any time, night or day.
4. You must keep a Baby Book and write in it daily.
5. Certain persons (who shall not be named until the experiment is over) shall make it their business to check on the welfare of the flour babies…

While most of the boys take to the flour babies like any loud, sweaty, food-and-fun-loving boy, Simon Martin approaches it thouthfully. Abandoned by his father when he was 6 weeks old, he peppers his Mum with many questions about how and what it was like when he was a “flour baby”.

Taken aback, his Mum answers his questions as best as she can but Simon realizes that he needs to find the answers to all his questions about his Dad on his own. Writing in his “Baby Book” helps him crystallize his thoughts and his uncharacteristic tender feelings towards his pet project.

I had many hearty laughs over the boys’ mixed reactions towards the “flour babies”, their range of responsibilities and also their journal entries. After all, these are 10-11 year old boys tasked to be “fathers” for an extended period of time while going to school, doing homework, playing football, doing household chores and other activites in a regular boy’s life.

In the end, I find that the book is less a book on a Science Fair project but more of a young boy’s thoughts on the issue of separation, abandonment and life in a single parent household.

In most cases of single parent households, it is not obvious to the sole father or mother that the child/children tend to feel “guilty” that they had in some way caused the other parent to leave the family.

Simon Martin’s spoken and written thoughts shed a light on this issue, albeit in a lighthearted way. From being the school bully and troublemaker, he emerges a mature and responsible young boy – realizing that he is also NOT ready to be a father yet.

Unlike his father, he knows this, addresses his nurturing feelings towards the flour baby and moves on as a young, carefree boy with his life ahead of him :-)

“Flour Babies” is a Winner of the Whitbread Children’s Book Award and the Carnegie Medal.

Rating: ★★★★½

Flour Babies by Anne Fine
ISBN: 0-14-036147-2

Want to read it? Get a copy from Amazon now:

Or fancy watching Robin Williams keep up his act with Sally Fields in “Mrs. Doubtfire” again? Get the video:


3
Sep 08

Living literature through Halloween costumes

Nothing’s more fun in an English literature class than to dress up as a book character! And Halloween is the best time for babies, children, pre-teens, young adults and adults to have fun with costumes :-)

Other than movies, books are an excellent source of inspiration for your Halloween costume. Besides, at least you won’t be another Batman, Superman, Cat Woman, waitress, pirate, Zorro or any other popular character (even though they can be pretty cool).

Let’s see, whether you want to dress up in old-fashioned costumes or futuristic, literature has many interesting characters to choose from.

FAMOUS BOOK CHARACTERS
How about dressing up as:

  • “The Cat in the Hat” (the book one, NOT the Johnny Depp version!),
  • Miss Trunchbull, the nasty Headmistress from Roald Dahl’s “Mathilda”,
  • the eccentric Willy Wonka or any of the strange children in Roald Dahl’s “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory”,
  • Laura or Caroline Ingalls (from “Little House in the Big Woods“) in ole Prairie dress, cap and apron from 1800s?
  • a young member of the China Communist party ? (refer to “China’s Son: Growing Up in the Cultural Revolution“) or
  • a beautiful moth or butterfly as the very, very, very shy and young Anna did in “The Woman in the Wall” did.
  • MEDIEVAL MAGIC

    Think “King Arthur” and “Lord of the Rings” and the world is your stage…

    Men would look dashing as a valiant knight, Lancelot, a nobleman, Robin Hood, Legolas…

    Or if you want to stand out of the crowd (who’d probably go as Merlin, Gandalf or Frodo the Hobbit) you could go as Gollum or an Orc and scare the daylights out of everyone! ;-)

    I know I wouldn’t mind looking as ethereal as Galadriel, Arwen or Lady Guinevere since witches would be everywhere already! After, this stay-at-home Mum already looks like fright on normal days, looking pretty is definitely a pleasant change :-)

    FUTURISTIC CHARACTERS

    I’m a HUGE Star Wars fan so if I were to choose a space theme for costumes, I’d dress up as Princess Leia (although I think the ‘buns’ hairdo is absolutely hideous!), perhaps her slave costume or the regal Queen Amidala.

    Babies would look SOOOO sweet as Yoda, Chewbacca or even Darth Vader.

    I think boys may find a Jedi, Anakin Skywalker, a storm trooper, an astronaut or even Buzz Lightyear (from the Disney movie “Toy Story) costumes cool! How about Jar Jar Binks??? I liked him even though he wasn’t very popular…

    Little girls and teenage girls could also consider Judy Jetson (from the cartoon “The Jetsons”) and have fun with a hoop skirt.

    Whichever costume you choose, remember to have fun in the process of dressing up and acting out your character :-)


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