August, 2008


19
Aug 08

REVIEW: Down to a Sunless Sea by Mathias B. Freese

If you have a son and are trying to gain a better understanding of what the average young man thinks or worries about, you HAVE to read this book.

If you work with young people, whether as a teacher, a coach, a tutor or simply trying to understand young people, you HAVE to read this book.

If you care about young people with disabilities, whether they are physical, learning, mental or sexual, you HAVE to read this collection of short stories.

If you are a young adult, you shoud read “Down to a Sunless Sea“, if only to see that SOMEONE ELSE out there feels exactly as you feel…even though that person may be a physically handicapped boy or not.

Although the book cover is as depressing as its title, I simply could not put it down after I started reading it. Why? Another author, Rolf Gompertz, sums up the essence of Mr. Freese’s collection of stories:

“Mathias Freese is an inspired, talented writer, a sharp-eyed, honest observer; and a caring, compassionate human being. These qualities inform his dark, offbeat stories about life, making these tales a poignant, precious pleasure to read.”

Firstly, I’m struck by these lines in the Foreword:

“Evil exists in this world because it is allowed. To stand against it often means standing alone.”

How true this is, isn’t it? Yikes, I hope I haven’t made this book sound even more depressing than it appears to be. It really ISN’T a depressing book – it’s a very insightful one into the psyche of “troubled characters” or “the deviant and damaged”.

I’ll Make It I Think – We see life through the eyes of a severely disabled teenaged boy, with a dark sense of humour, especially towards his deformed leg, arm and constant salivating. Reading this story reminds me that even though a disabled person may look different from the average person on the outside, they have the same feelings, needs and wants like any other human being.

In this case, this boy shares with us very, very candidly the sexual desires of any normal, teenage boy. Even though he makes jokes about girls being turned off by his appearance, deep down inside, it hurts a lot. And he drives home the fact that just because one is disabled or deformed, it doesn’t mean that one doesn’t appreciate beauty e.g. a disabled person would think another disabled person is “physically attractive”.

Herbie – This has to be my favourite story in the collection because it shows just how important a father’s opinion is to his son. A father teaches his young son the perfect way to shine shoes and the boy thinks of the perfect way to earn money from this new skill.

Thinking that his father will be so proud of him, he is devastated when his father become incense with rage instead and accuses the young man of embarrassing him. Sadly, the misunderstanding causes the father to strike the son, although I feel that the mother could have stepped in to prevent that disaster.

A mother’s all-important role as mediator for this often rocky relationship is highighted in this story for even though she hardly spoke more than 10 words, both father and son think furtively before the father gives in to his anger:

“Where was his mother? She must have heard…”
“Where is she?” his father moaned, almost absentmindedly as if he were alone for the moment.
“Where was his mother?” he thought; never around.

I have strongly recommended for Hubby to read this story to prepare him for his important role ahead of him.

Little Errands – This story has great form as the narrative is written to emulate the repetitive, staccato-like thoughts of a paranoid, obsessive-compulsive person who agonizes (across 4 tightly-worded pages) over his errand of mailing 2 letters.

His mind turns over the 100 things that could go wrong to deter or prevent the letters from being mailed – we get an inside view of the mind of a highly tensed, racing thoughts of such a person whose paranoid imaginations tail one after another as quickly as the moves of 2 top-ranking players in a speed chess competition.

Arnold Schwarzenegger was a Nazi – This is a truly FUNNY short story as Freese gives his imagination poetic license i.e. he tells the story of how Scwarzenegger might be like before he become the Senator of the state of California. It’s really for anyone to prove – I’m really curious if this could be true…

Echo – Narcissistic self-love prevents this young man from sustaining a meaningful friendship with another young man. He blames it on his mother not keeping her promise to pick him up from somewhere but his friend knows that this single incident is not the reason for this:

“…I feel as if you can’t make a real connection with me – it isn’t a wall you construct as selfishness, although there’s something to your own self-involvement.”

I’ve never thought of this before when I think of certain failed friendships. I can identify with the friends’ frequent attempts to get in touch with the other young man in the effort of keeping the friendship alive – now it gets me thinking (and accepting) that perhaps it isn’t my fault after all!

Young Man – Another interesting story about a young man who always thought “he had to become, and become more than he was, as if over-riding who he was.” In other words, he always felt he could do better in every aspect of his life. Almost there but never there.

Because of this pre-occupation, he lived a short, unevent life and eventually died from cancer.

Nicholas - This fantastically written story is about a young schoolboy who has learning difficulties especially with English spelling and punctuation, which Freese retains ad verbatim throughout the story.

From a blue collar background, he can’t see any practical usefor any of his school lessons and offers surprisingly “so true, it hurts” thoughts which, sadly, are brushed off by the average school teacher. Check out these gems:

“On my honeymoon, I’m not going to ask her what’s the capital of Turkey.”

“Even Jesus couldn’t write and he never much from home, never really anywhere and had no degree either.”

More importantly,

“Let me get some respect even if I’m no good in English.”

“The truth is out there on the streets, in other people and how they on or don’t get on with you.”

“Teachers and schools say one thing but the real world says another.”

‘Nicholas’ reminds me about my own struggle with English assessment scales when I was teaching at a private college. In truth, English examinations out there still emphasizes a high score on accuracy (grammar, spelling, punctuation) although the battle is still on for a more balanced scoring that takes into account originality of content and creativity.

What this means for English as a second language learners is that their essays will NEVER be as good as native speakers unless they demonstrate an excellent grasp of the English grammar and style.

However, their unique perspective of the world through their first language often produces excellent, highly interesting and engaging pieces of written work, which sadly, never make the grade. Also, this story shows how most teachers tend to brush off or even put down students with poor language skills even though these students are very, very intelligent.

Great minds like Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison and Mark Twin are real life examples of being overlooked and abandoned by the school system.

Anyway…I’m truly awed by the compassion Mathias B. Freese has shown society’s members of the lowest caste, if I may borrow a concept from traditional Indian society.

I’d imagined that someone who has spent 25 years as a clinical social worker and psychotherapist would paint a hardened picture of these social outcasts – instead, Freese has done just the right opposite. He has revealed these unique individuals as the regular, human beings (just like you and me) as they are.

Rating: ★★★★☆

Down to a Sunless Sea by Mathias B. Freese
ISBN: 978-1-58736-733-5
Publisher: Wheatmark

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13
Aug 08

REVIEW: Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert

Are you a housewife with a boring husband? Dream of a better life elsewhere? Think that your life should be so, so much better than you deserve? If yes, you are not alone – even way back in 1856 in France, another woman felt exactly like how you do.

That woman is Emma Rouault, a beautiful young farmer’s daughter who married a country doctor, Charles Bovary and became known as Madame Bovary. Although everyone (including herself) thinks that their marriage is made in heaven…soon Emma realizes that her husband is nothing but a simple man.

To start off, their marriage is one of coincidence and convenience – Charles was first married to a woman 25 years older than him (because she was rich).

If she had been a pleasant wife, maybe (?) Charles would not have strayed or found the YOUNGER Emma attractive. In the end, when Charles’ first wife died in a fit, it was natural for him to marry Emma.

Theirs seem like a marriage made in heaven since their “dating” days were spent talking gaily with each other. Emma was also very happy to move into Charles’ home, except for the moment his dead wife’s wedding flowers greeted her in their bridal room…

At the beginning, Emma took to her newly married life with enthusiasm as she had a maid to tend to her needs. Charles brought in enough money to ensure she had a comfortable (although not luxurious) life.

As for Charles, he was the happiest man on earth! After spending several years under the withered iron fist of his older, rich wife, he found his new wife and new life perfect. Poor Charles – he sure was a happy man who thought he’d died and gone to heaven…

Emma spent most of her time reading romantic novels, which were all about

“…love, lovers, beautiful girls, ladies in danger, horses ridden till they dropped dead, dark forests, tears and kisses, and gentlemen as brave as lions.”

She becomes so taken in by the ideas in these books that she started wondering,

“…if they could have gone far away to lands whose names fall like music on the ear, where the weddings of lovers are followed by mornings of soft delight and where, when the sun goes down, you breathe, sitting beside the sea, the sweet perfume of the lemon trees.

Why did her bedroom window not look out on to the Swiss or Scottish mountains? Why did her husband not stand beside her in a black silk jacket, the wind blowing his long hair back from his pale, white forehead?”

One day, they are invited to a high society party hosted by a national government Minister, the Marquis d’Andervilliers. Attending the party is like a dream come true for Emma who spent the entire night dancing and watching the guests

“…men talking and smoking cigars in small groups in their black and white evening dress, as the servants moved aong them carrying drinks and more small, delicate things to eat. All along the rows of seated women she could see smiles half-hidden, half-revealed, by the flowers the ladies held;

everywhere there was silk, the flash of jewels and gold, white arms, and hair piled high on elegant heads.”

The party ends but not Emma’s dreaming. She tries to liven up her dull existence as a country doctor’s wife by adding pretty, elegant touches around the house – the unsuspecting Charles is even more impressed with how clever and stylish his wife is, not knowing that her longing is growing deeper day by day.

Soon, she befriends a legal clerk, Leon Dupuis and both of them get on like a house on fire because they loved to read and talk about places they have never visited, things they have never done. They soon fall in love and there are many chances for them to profess their feelings but Emma holds back.

In the end, Leon leaves the village and Emma falls ill with despair. She also becomes pregnant.

She wants a baby boy but gets a baby girl, whom Charles adores dearly. Losing her dear friend, Emma falls 100% for the playboy, Rodolphe Boulanger’s offer of friendship (with every ddishonest intention to seduce her) which turns into a torrid affair. A silly girl in love, Emma spends a lot of her husband’s money to buy presents for Rodolphe.

She thinks that Rodolphe is willing to whisk her away to Paris, to a better life but in reality, he starts to get bored with her childish talk and plans…

“He never kissed her and held her in the old way. No! That great love of theirs, on whose waves she had been carried away, seemed to be growing shallower beneath her, like the waters of a river in a dry summer, and now she could see the mud that lay beneath it!”

She’s in for a real shock when he reneges their pact to escape together. Heartbroken and stuck in an unhappy marriage, Emma becomes depressed and falls ill.

Her life picks up again when she reunites with her old friend, Leon Dupuis, and she starts another affair. However, her lavish spending during her affair with Rodolphe lands her into huge, huge debts that the law comes after her, threatening to take over their home…everything.

Unable to deal with the harsh reality, Emma swallows poison (I’m still trying to find out what) and dies a horrible, painful death. The saddest people in the world are Charles, who only realized her affairs after that and yet loved her with all his life (and death) and her daughter, Berthe.

Reading this 3,000 word Level 6 Penguin Reader bought for only RM1 from The Big Bookshop, I am struck by the similarities between the plot here and the one in Leo Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina and Guy de Maupaussant’s The Necklace, which also center on the theme of young, married women who are unhappy with their lives.

Once a young wife myself, I confess that I HAVE gone down the Romantic road myself – wishing that my husband was taller, darker and handsomer (grins); earned more money or in other words be like Ronan Keating, Marcus Schenkenberg, Viggo Mortensen, South America’s national volleyball team, the Spanish football team and Bill Gates all rolled into one!

Lucky for me, I realize that he is a gem as he is and that we were brought together by friendship, love and God. For the areas that we do not share a common interest, both of us have cultivated them individually and are happy to bond where we can and leave off where we can’t.

I wished that Emma could have seen the wonderful life she had right in front of her, especially the kind, hardworking husband and beautiful daughter who loved her very much.

Also, I wished that Charles could have been more enlightened and seen the danger signs of Emma’s affairs flashing everywhere – which husband in his right mind would encourage intimate friendships between his wife and another man? Also, he should have seen that Emma was changing so much…

Since the story takes place in the 19th century during the Romantic era, man-woman relationships needed a lot of work then and that open, honest communication was unheard of.

I feel very little sympathy for Emma because she was a selfish woman from beginning to end. She took the easy way out of her troubles and ultimately left her poor husband to deal with her debts and when he died of a broken heart, her 3 year old INNOCENT little girl was left behind an unwanted and penniless child.

Moral of the story: When you are in an affair, are you REALLY sure that he will do as he says?

What do you think? If you’d read the book, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

P/S I can’t wait to read the full, unabridged book because Flaubert’s description and metaphors are incredible :-)

Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0-582-45408-5


1
Aug 08

Chinese preschool books

Boy, was I horrified (again!) when my toddler and I went through this set of picture cum colouring books!

Before our move to China and because I can’t read/write Chinese, I’ve never visited the Chinese book section. My first encounter with Chinese picture books was a “stunning” one as a gun and a rifle are used to introduce the concepts of “long” and “short”.

short-and-long-chinese-preschool-book

As he’s starting preschool soon, I bought a bunch of bilingual preschool books to familiarize him with the Chinese medium of instruction.

Check out this seemingly innocent cover with an excavator:

cover-chinese-preschool-book

This 62 page book introduces the Chinese name for invidiual items, with the Chinese character, hanyu pinyin and English word all next to each other. What’s also fun about it is that kids can colour in each item, with suggested colours next to them.

What horrifies me though are these pictures:

BULLET AND MAUSER
chinese-preschool-book-bullet-mauser

KATANNA and NUNCHAKUS?
chinese-preschool-book-katanna-nunchakus

DAGGER and SNIPE GUN?
chinese-preschool-book-snipe-gun

GRENADE???
chinese-preschool-book-grenade

SUBMACHINE GUN
chinese-preschool-book-submachine-gun

ASSAULT RIFLE?!
chinese-preschool-assault-rifle

I’m dumbstuck. And wonder if I’m outdated. Or over-reacting. Have times really changed that much that words like “assult rifle” have become an essential part of children (preschool) vocabulary?

And my heart goes out to children in war-torn countries who learn these words first long before they learn words like “playground”, “swings”, “slides” or “happy”.

I’m beginning to realize now the effects of living in a country where military might stands tall and proud, amongst the other facets promoted e.g. history, culture, people and natural beauty.

It’s really hard to place this book (the worst actually in the set of six I bought) next to the preschool books I have in my collection. For now, it’s high up in the shelf among the things that are out of bounds for him.


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